EQ for Spiritual Leaders: Introduction
Daniel Goleman brought the concept of “Emotional Intelligence” (EQ) to the masses with his groundbreaking book in 2006 with the same title. His research found that the “soft skills” of emotional intelligence are twice as important as cognitive intelligence and technical skills for long term success. In this podcast series, Paul Richardson, author of A Certain Risk, and Mike O’Quin, author of Growing Desperate, talk about the crucial importance for spiritual leaders to develop their own EQ for the health and effectiveness of their teams. In subsequent podcasts they will unpack all five of Goleman’s EQ categories.
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EQ for Spiritual Leaders (Part One)
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Loved Beyond Measure
I opened up a note from Ben, a close friend of mine, who lives in West Africa. His words and reflections from Brennan Manning inspired me so deeply, and spoke so profoundly into this moment of my life. I want to pass this treasure on "into" to you as we all prepare our hearts for Good Friday and Easter.
Good Afternoon Paul !
As I am reading a book called “The Signature of Jesus” by Brennan Manning, these words I see on the page and I am thinking of how you and I seek to lead others to discover who they have been created to become –
“Good Friday reminds us that we are not going to be helped by power, only by God’s laying aside His power for love of us. Power forces us to change; only love can move us to change. Power affects behavior; love affects the heart. And nothing on earth so moves the heart as suffering love. That is why the perfect expression of God’s love for us is the dying figure of Jesus pleading for someone to moisten his burning lips.”
To go further in his writing – he says, “In the winter of 1968, I lived in a cave in the mountains of the Zaragosa Desert in Spain. For seven months I saw no one, never heard the sound of a human voice. Hewn out of the face of the mountain, the cave towered six thousand feet above sea level. Each Sunday morning a brother from the village of Farlete below dropped off food, drinking water, and kerosene at a designated spot. Within the cave a stone partition divided the chapel on the right from the living quarters on the left. A stone slab covered with potato sacks served as a bed. The other furniture was a rugged granite desk, a wooden chair, a Sterno stove, and a kerosene lamp. On the wall of the chapel hung a three-foot crucifix. I awoke each morning at 2:00 and went into the chapel for an hour of nocturnal adoration.
On the night of December 13, during what began as a long and lonely hour of prayer, I heard in faith Jesus Christ say, “For love of you I left my Father’s side. I came to you who ran from me, fled me, who did not want to hear my name. For love of you I was covered with spit, punched, beaten, and affixed to the wood of the cross.”
These words are burned on my life. Whether I am in a state of grace or disgrace, elation or depression, that night of fire quietly burns on. I looked at the crucifix for a long time, figuratively saw the blood streaming from every pore of his body, and heard the cry of his wounds: “This isn’t a joke. It is not a laughing matter to me that I have loved you.” The longer I looked, the more I realized that no man has ever loved me and no one ever could love me as he did. I went out of the cave, stood on the precipice, and shouted into the darkness, “Jesus, are you crazy? Are you out of your mind to have loved me so much?”
I learned that night what a wise old man had told me years earlier: “Only the one who has experienced it can know what the love of Jesus Christ is. Once you have experienced it, nothing else in the world will seem more beautiful or desirable.”
Bro, you are loved without condition! Cyndi, Katie, Josiah and Stephen are loved just like you are loved! If things seem to be more than is bearable today, embrace the simple fact that Jesus lived and died and lived again so that what you possess is forever with Him!
Today matters – Live it knowing that Jesus belongs to you!
Your brother forever!
Ben
Searching for God
The Decision
Its Rare. Its Beautiful. Its the Secret to Living a Brilliant Life

Never The Same: Celebrating 50 Years Since ‘The Peace Child’
I want to invite you to view a short film called Never The Same, which documents last summer’s return of my brothers, my dad and me to the Papuan jungle village where we lived so many years ago with our tribe. The film highlights the lasting influence and impact of the message of Jesus among a hostile ethnic group, celebrating 50 years since “The Peace Child.” The film can also be viewed on its Facebook page. Feel free to share this page as an encouragement to your friends and family.
an INSPIRING GENERATION
An INSPIRING GENERATION
Thank you so much for your prayers fore me as I spoke at the World Mandate conference at Baylor University. I was in awe of the thousands of American college students who are outragiously passionate for God and the hundreds who stepped forward to commit themselves to advance his kingdom cross culturally. This generation inspires me to the core. Yes, there are those kids whose souls seem to have melted away into video games and other manifestations of their own made-up universes. But this generation has a powerful and explosive movement of kids who have rejected materialism and all the other empty promises of this world and have focused their eyes on Jesus and his kingdom alone.
Back in Indonesia, our Charis students held elections for leadership roles this week. The Charis vision statement is “Shaping Future Leaders.” A value for leadership is pervasive in the curriculum and ethos. So when there is an opportunity to rise up to a leadership challenge, a great majority of our students venture into the fray. The teachers then vote for a handful of students who can qualify for elections. This year, for this first time, the four finalists were all girls. Ive had three of them in my classes, and they are each already magificent leaders who have strong character and a bold love for Jesus. These girls are world changers. They make the 13 years that we have lived in Indonesia fully worth it. Young men and women like this are the future of the movement of Jesus in Indonesia. They are already beginning to reshape the ethos of the church.
Before giving their speeches, the candidates shared hugs and encouraging words for each other.
Election day is a pretty big deal. The entire student population enjoys and speeches and listens carefully to every word.
Veve’s campaign poster was clear, visually attractive and persuasive.
She is now our Student Body President.
Paul Andrew Richardson
Develop Leaders. Empower a Generation. Transform Nations.
Into the Flood (on dry land)
“…and the feet of the priests who bore the ark dipped in the edge of the water (for the Jordan overflows all its banks during the whole time of harvest) that the waters which came down from upstream stood still, and rose in a heap very far away … (they) stood firm on dry ground in the midst of the Jordan; and all Israel crossed over on dry ground, until all the people had crossed completely over the Jordan.” –From Joshua 3
I’m captivated by this story from Joshua 3. For me, there’s a vivid takeaway … God told the priests to step off dry land into the floodwaters before He did anything for them. His miracle would originate from far away and eventually catch up to them. This is a bit different from the crossing of the Red Sea, where God opened up the waters beforehand. The first miracle was designed to bring slaves to freedom. But this was a new generation, ready to take the next step of maturity, to engage in greater battles and mightier steps of faith. This time, God told them to go to a dangerous place and trust Him to show up.
NINE months ago, a group of us were at a New Year's party. Someone asked everyone in the group to share our hopes and dreams for 2012. My throat suddenly started to feel dry. Over the final weeks of 2011, God had been stirring in my heart to take a step of faith in a specific way. He wanted me to follow the path of risk, to step into the Jordan and trust him for the outcome.
Would I have the guts to verbalize the dream in front of this group?
A bit nervous, I started to explain to my friends, “The Teacher Training land has been sitting empty for a few years now. God provided the funds for us to have our dormitory and a few offices, and the program is finally up and running, but the biggest part of our vision is still a vacant lot. I know this dream came from God, and I want to start building our auditorium for our training conferences, the lab high school classrooms, and open an Early Childhood Center there. But I have no idea where the money will come from. I’ve decided to start building it, and we’ll keep building until God stops providing the funds.”
I knew our financial situation, and the decision was nuts. I was going on the hunch that God doesn’t like to start projects and leave them unfinished. A few days later I formed a committee to launch the project. Somehow, in ways that I still don’t understand, and perhaps never will be able to explain, through a combination of generous people here in Indonesia, unexpectedly low prices on some of our raw materials, and inexplicable miracles, the project has moved forward.
And forward … and forward.
Here is the new building (on left) at Back to School Night.
Now we are launching into the third floor, which will be an auditorium with a balcony. The auditorium will seat 350. That auditorium will be used for Re-Imagine Education conferences, held multiple times each year, where thousands of Indonesian teachers will be equipped and inspired. It will also be the site where countless numbers of children and youth hear God’s Word, and lift their voices in worship until Jesus returns.
At the moment of this writing, we’re still way short of the estimated funds to finish this building, but we’re just going to keep pressing forward until God runs out of money. And I’m just laughing as I write this. It’s been awhile since I stepped into the Jordan, getting my shoes wet and trusting God to get me across on dry land. The feeling is amazing. Life is so rich when we are walking God and trusting Him all the way. I’ve never jumped out of an airplane with a parachute, but it must feel something like this. It’s only fitting that in a few days we celebrate Miracle Day for the 13th year (August 12).
Will you celebrate with us? Yes, God is a God of miracles, and He loves to show up when his children rise up into audacious endeavors, where only God can bring us to the other side.
Amazing Unmerited Favor
The outlandishness of God’s grace is well described in an analogy I heard years ago which differentiates between justice, mercy and grace.